...know it all by now? What if that is part of the fun of being here on this planet? Learning and adding to what the brain, soul and mind can do? If you knew it all, where could you possibly expand? Wouldn't that be incredibly boring?

The reason I am asking all of these questions is I hear on a weekly, sometimes daily, basis "I should know this already." Like there is some kind of bar code on our butts that if scanned would say, yup, she has life experience, she should know a, b , c by now. Creative? Sure, but correct? I don't believe so. Somewhere along the line as humans we decided that we have to know it all and act like we don't know anything. It's very confusing isn't it?

When I was growing up my mother used to say to me, "Victoria, don't be so smart. Now go help your sister with her homework." I loved helping with homework so it didn't occur to me at the time what a mixed message that was. My sister is older than I am and quite a few grades ahead of me at the time. (and completely capable of doing her own homework I may add.) I know my mother was attempting to help both of us. I know she had our best interests at heart but perhaps, as most of us when not present, didn't realize what she was teaching at the time.

I have allowed the message to hold me back quite a bit in life. I realize this now and with the help of curiosity and lots of Belief Re-patterning, I am able to see it but not engage in it any longer. I know what I know and I stand confident in my not knowing it all. It's such a free feeling to be able to say, I have no clue, but let me check into that or ask someone who does. It is also a lot of fun to say ooooh, ooooh, I know what to do here!

I would love everyone to stand in their own knowing. To hold their power of greatness and realize that we aren't in competition. What you know adds to what I know and what I know can add to what you know. Let's share and realize that our greatest gift is a love of learning. It also happens to be free and something only you can decide if you use or not. No one else has power over how smart you are unless you give permission to self to believe what they may say about you. Which wouldn't be true anyway would it, if you are the only one who can say how much you know?

So, what if you relaxed about where you are and what you could know by now? Should always brings guilt with it. Could brings choice. You could know more, so learn then but put down the billy club you are beating yourself up with for what you think you do not know.

Be willing to see the patterns in your life and how you allow others to treat you or how you treat yourself. By all means, be aware of where you are limiting yourself and then bust through that limitation and stand in the glory of who you are as a soul. If you need help with this, you know where to find me. I'd love to help with your soul work but I have to say, I won't do your home work for you. Lend you a pencil to do it for yourself? You betcha!

If you find yourself wanting to go to the place of blame around what you "should" know, step away from the drama and ask "what can I learn here?". "How can I be nice to me now and open up to a new way of being?" Be inquisitive and be a teacher to self with compassion and love.

Off to learn more about people and how to help,

Vicki

www.vickibaird.com

How many times a day do you go through a transition of a doorway? We do it automatically and probably don't think too much about it except when it's locked or you have a lot in your hands and have to pee and can't get it to open! Then you are aware of it but other than that, not so much since it is so part of our world.

I was thinking of transitions the other day and how we are all in one, always. Whether we are traveling somewhere, moving within a relationship or shifting our career or spiritual self, we are in transition. Then there is the big transition of when we croak and transition from physical to non-physical and continue our journey in another realm. If you ask me, that is the one that is the most fun but like our births, we rarely remember how much fun it really is.

As I thought of the transitions in my life lately I became aware of how good I felt about the ones that I made consciously. They weren't always easy but they were done from a place of I want a great life and this is going to help me get there. It was then that I heard myself saying, "I choose to go through this doorway rather than being a doormat." To which I followed with, oh damn. I hadn't even realized I was serving as a doormat for others. I saw it as helping and being of service rather than being used. I am sure there is a lot of the first part but there is definitely some of the doormat that I needed to see in order to move forward in my life with choice. I can choose to decide when I want to help rather than feeling like I have to help simply because I have the ability to do so.

I could beat myself up for being the doormat and not seeing it or I can be proud that I am even aware I was doing it in the first place! I am going to choose to be proud because the other feels awful and I am not interested in self violence. I also became grateful in a short amount of time for the message that I no longer want to be that doormat. That means I will be more authentic with others and add more joy to my life.

Doormat being comes in a variety of examples. How I was acting as a doormat is not how you may act. Do you let others walk all over you? Do you do things you don't want to but because you don't want to let someone else down or feel you "should" do it? Do you continue to turn yourself inside out so someone will like you? This is about becoming aware of when you are allowing others to walk over you rather than help you transition through a doorway to a new way of being.

Becoming aware is not blame. It is being open to seeing things as having the possibility of a higher vibrational way of being. It is much more fun and easy to be who we really are, it simply takes practice to be self. To see the doorway as a choice of being a welcome invitation to change rather than an invitation to have others walk on your face!

Which feels better to you? Connect to that part of you that can determine what feels good. It doesn't matter if it doesn't feel good to another. This isn't a comparison game. What feels good to you at this time? If you need help, ask someone who is honest and will tell you if you have doormat tendencies. I can always depend on Howard to tell me if I am being taken advantage of. This used to happen a lot more than now because I have realized I can't disappoint others, if they are disappointed, that is on them, not me. He can see though, when I am not able to, when someone is authentic or when they are full of whoey. I will still feel it out for myself but more often than not, he has been right when someone had less than authentic motives.

Take some time this week to watch yourself and see when you are choosing doorways or doormat behavior. Are you walking through and making progress in a relationship or are you being passive and allowing others to wipe their feet at your expense? Don't get cranky either, you allowed this, you can change it. Take responsibility where you see it and choose to do it a different way. Voila!

Walking through a lot of doorways lately,

Vicki

www.vickibaird.com

Energy, Energy, it is all Energy and boy is it flying lately!

 

Isn't it? Are you feeling like something wound you up and is creating havoc in your electrical field? Are you crankier than usual, yet hopeful at the same time? Yup, we call that energy and I call it an energy upgrade. So, hang on to your shorts, or long pants and rain coat, if you are in the Northeast, as it is getting better and better and better.

 

I waited until today to mention this as I wanted people to not wind it up any further. It is all about me you know and the energy I perceive. HA!  So, the really cool thing about June 10th, besides my niece's birthday, is it is an opening or energy boost. We have these several times a year and they are getting closer and closer together. You can feel the momentum building if you are willing to step out of the perception that it is all about you. :) It will last for another few days and then balance out at this higher frequency. Cool huh?

 

Whenever there is an energy surge or opening, it amplifies what we are already looking at or working through, BUT, it also helps us to move forward. It is up to us if we use the energy in our greatest interest or if we use it to go further into our stuff. It is always a choice how we respond. We all have old tapes in our heads and they can be quite effective but eventually realizing the technology has moved us to digital and a faster medium is amazing and very freeing.

 

This energy is also bringing a great deal of change to people's lives. There are houses selling galore, people moving, businesses changing, relationships moving to new levels, getting clean, spiritual changes to the max and an amazing amount of letting go happening. GO YOU!

 

Take these next few days to be especially aware of your words and your mood. If it isn't forward moving or positive, please don't share it. If you have a hard time getting to a higher vibration of energy, take a walk, look at nature and it's amazing ability to be flexible and malleable. The energy will be intense for the next two days especially but your words will live on beyond that and so will anything you create in this time.

 

Also take these few days to really get clear about what you would like in life, or maybe your are like myself and would like to create a life! Get creative, get moving and allow the gift of possibility to be in your life.

 

With you on the roller coaster of energy life with my hands high in the air,

Vicki