One of the aspects of my work I love so much is I continue to see and learn new ways of viewing situations I have seen hundreds, if not thousands, of times. Humans like to believe we are all so different but there are similarities in our desires even if the path to them is vastly different.

The question I hear the most is who am I? I hear this from the majority of my clients but also from my own inner voice.  I've probably asked it millions of times by now. One, because I seek to know and two, because there is some feeling that when I know, then I can really start living. Well, I decided this week that there is a flaw in this question we are all asking. We have the words out of order.

What if....rather than asking who am I, we started stating, who I am?

Think about it. Doesn't it feel good to state who you are rather than ask who you are? Now, you may say, how am I supposed to do that, Vicki, if I don't know who I am? I'm glad you asked because that is where the fun is. When we ask who am I we are seeking external answers whether we ask it out loud or not. Some part of us is looking for someone else to tell us who the hell we are. Tell us our value, show us our worth and give us a darn map to this lifetime thing.

When we state who we are, we are doing it from a place of knowing rather than seeking. So, I will start and give you an example; (you are very brave to come into my mind with me.)

"Who am I? Am I a soul? Am I an intuitive, a coach, a belief specialist? A wife, a mother, a friend, a label to the outside world?" It is all very confusing because there isn't one answer to the one question.

However, when I decide to state who I am, it gets a bit more clear because I use the words I am.

• I am a soul within a person within this vast universe. 
• I am funny. (I think I am anyway, so therefore, I must be!)
• I am intuitive and curious and smart. 
• I am loving. 
• I am learning to be the best me I can be on any given day. 

Can you see how the energy changed there from a question with seemingly no answer to a statement of what I already have a knowing of? I can go from a place of feeling like not enough and confused or I can be in a feeling of pride, accomplishment and a little awe of all I have learned about me. I choose the later. I choose to see what I have already learned about me and build on that. 

What about you? Does asking the question who am I give you heart palpitations? Does it make you want to avoid the question all together? I know I did for years because just when I thought I figured it out, something would change. It was frustrating at times. 

What five things can you state about yourself right now? Don't worry about needing to tell others just yet. Observe them about you and get in the practice of seeing who you are today is just fine and build on that. It is really quite exhilarating to drop the less than drama and pick up the woo hoo, I rock, practice. 

If this is challenging for you, be kind and take your time doing it. You could also join us for the Intro to Life's Toolbox Series. We will help you identify what it is about you that is amazing and how to create a plan and foundation with those tools while adding others. We will also laugh a lot. 

Who I am is someone very grateful to have you with me on this journey!

Vicki

p.s. Don't make it work. This lifetime thing is meant to be fun! 

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I have seen people in some of the most vulnerable places in their lives. They are hurting and seeking the miracle cure for the pain. This is sometimes physical, but most often it is emotional. To me, they are one and the same. When the emotional self is hurting, the body tends to follow suit very quickly. There is an energy pattern that shows up as a small vibration and if the situation is not addressed and released, it becomes a physical manifestation. Louise Hay wrote the pioneer book on this in her, You Can Heal Your Life. I love this book and have given dozens of copies away when someone is experiencing a diagnosis and interested in shifting the energy.

My first inclination used to be to solve the situation for them. I have come to realize that is not possible, nor is it helpful to them. My role is to point out the discord and hopefully, help bring things into alignment so healing can happen on all levels be it emotional, physical, spiritual or mental. We all have the ability to solve our own pain. First, we have to be willing to see we are not the pain. Yes, we may be experiencing a message from our brains that there is pain, but we are not the pain. If we can become the observer of that pain, we can then take the next step in relieving it. Of course, if something is bleeding, get medical help!

People close to me used to say I was not feeling or didn't care when someone was in pain when the opposite is true. I was feeling it at levels often deeper than the person themselves were, I just was not the one who could make the decision to do anything about it. We can't change someone else and we can't heal someone else. We can be the bringer of information and we can be the hugger, but the healing is up to the person themselves. This takes an incredible amount of strength to stand back and allow the other to find their direction and their own clarity. Do you have that strength? Are you developing it? I recommend a lot of deep breaths and reminders that it is their path to help you learn to observe.

I decided a few years back that I wasn't going to be afraid of pain any longer. I was going to be inquisitive and I was going to delve into what was hurting so I could release it and be lighter, in energy and body. Most often it is a story anyway, and not the truth at the time, but rather something we have learned to carry around. Even asking what is the pain here to teach me, can relieve it a bit.

How often have you looked at your own stuff through a filter or fingers over your eyes? I know I have and still do on occasion. This isn't about being perfect and without pain. This is about recognizing I can make a choice about the level of pain I am experiencing. Knowledge is power and the more I know about me, with all my nooks and crannies, the better life I will create.

Do you want a better life? Would you like to be able to face whatever comes up in your internal closet and decide whether to keep it, donate or chuck it in the garbage? I'll be posting classes to help you on this journey and to build that tool kit soon. In the meantime, start observing the space that separates you from the pain. Become conscious that there is even a space to be had. No, it isn't easy, but it is so worth the effort.

Learning this life thing a bit at at time,

Vicki

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