This is another installment of the book, Everyone Has an IT, and boy is the timing appropriate for this chapter.  Identity Theft is our IT this week and I feel like I've been taken over by the body snatchers.  My husband has decided to do a tour of the ICU unit of the hospital so we have been here for thirteen days and counting.  Have you ever spent more than two days in a hospital as a support person?  My goodness is it a learning experience.  Every area of life is up in the air from food, shelter, emotional balance, a bed, not to mention the amenities of bathing.  Then there are those pesky lifesaving decisions to make.  It's no wonder people walk around looking a little loopy.  Their identity changed on a dime and the new rules aren't written yet.  Identity theft; its real man, it's real.

Identity Theft:

In our ever evolving, growing technological world we hear a lot about identity theft. Whether this comes from someone receiving your information in a fraudulent manner or whether it is someone who lives with you and decides that they would like to have access to your credit line, either is considered a crime. Either is considered an attack on ones safety and feeling of well being.

One can purchase insurance to protect against this and can keep a vigilant watch on their credit report but I wonder; where is the protection plan for identity theft of your personality, of your drive, of your soul energy? Where is the policy I can purchase that will allow me to ensure that my feelings of strength, confidence and happiness are protected? Well, there isn’t one, at least not one that someone else can sell you as you will find out by this chapter, which would just perpetuate the very thing you are trying to protect against by handing over your energy and power.

How many times in your life have you wondered who am I and what do I want? What is it that is mine, me for myself and of myself? Often it is during a time of “I can’t take it anymore” that these questions come up. I have often been accused of teaching selfishness to which I say, absolutely I do because it is only when we are taking care of self that I believe we are able to help others authentically and with a feeling of fulfillment rather than depletion.

When one feels like the above questions, it is often because they have given away their energy and have become resentful of this. If there was an agent to call to create a claim there would be massive amounts of them on a daily basis as people awoke to the fact that they have given away the very essence of who they are.

Some very real examples of giving away your energy can be asking others their opinion on what you are planning on doing, asking a lot of others, not just a feedback request but looking for others approval. When this happens the energy field dissipates and becomes watered down. It is almost imperceptible at first but then one  begins  to feel like they aren’t themselves and it is actually true. The times of asking others and perhaps most importantly, giving more energy to what the other person thinks or says, add up and there is a gradual loss of the sense of self. I truly believe this is some of the challenge we have in relationships of all levels lately whether it is from sibling to sibling or country to country, we have forgotten how to feel for ourselves and be good with whatever the emotion or belief is that is there.

From a young age we are encouraged to ask others what they think and while it is great to consult a person who may have more experience on a subject or to sometimes to reach out to a friend to bounce an idea off of, it is vitally important that we remain in alignment with what resonates for each of us so we are authentic in our interactions. When we are good with whom we are and what others may think or feel, there is no room for resentment or any other lower vibrating energies to show up because we have respected each other’s energy field and can feel and think for ourselves.

There isn’t technically theft here if we are giving it away but it is something to keep in mind for when you are finding yourself asking others more than you are asking yourself what is in your best interest. I always tell people when they come for a reading to take what resonates and throw out the rest as I believe our own compass to be the strongest indication of what is best for us. Sure, occasionally that compass gets bent and due north is a challenging to find but when honored it will always lead you home to self.

Another example I see often is the where do you want to go to dinner dilemma. One person will ask where do you want to eat and the other will respond, “I don’t care where you want to eat?” Now, if it is the case of your really have no preference than that would open a dialogue but often it is a passive way of admitting you have no clue who you are or what you want. It may seem simple but it is often the simple requests that can bind us up the most.

Another example of Identity Theft is allowing the past to hold you in place. You may as well hand over your happiness to another if you are going to allow whatever happened in your past to hold you back. Sure there are some times and perhaps some tragedies that have helped form who you are and if you are using them to help you recognize what you want in life then congratulations but if you are using them to hold you back, you are doing a complete disservice to you and your soul. The very essence of you is always looking to grow, always looking and very willing to expand and to use every situation as a learning tool. This essence, this knowing soul has your back. It not only has your  back, it is your back! It is the support mechanism much like your spine is to your skeletal system and if you take care of it like you take care of your spine, you will do just fine.

Where in your current life is your past putting the brakes on? As I mentioned previously, this is one of my most favorite quotes from a client who brilliantly said, in a slightly whining voice, “but Vicki, it takes courage to see your life differently.” To which I replied, “you are brilliant, because yes it does but if you know that it takes courage it would seem to me that you have already considered leaving your past behind and moving forward with that courage.” She did and to this day is one of the most amazing souls I know for even when she was so scared her knees were knocking, she would choose herself over her fear and eventually that fear would dissipate. In her situation it was the family dynamic that was creating an issue for her as it can and should at some point in all of our lives for this is where we grow as well. She was allowing her “role” in her family to dictate who she was and how she acted. Often validating it when they were together as if it were an old 
play they had rehearsed so many times that she had no choice but to act along. But she did have choice and she will always have choice on how she acts and how much of her energy she is willing to give away.

Where are you giving away too much of your energy?

Where do you see yourself changing when in a relationship dynamic? Is it your family that can push your buttons and have you resorting to a role that is familiar? For instance, are you the “baby” of the family and no matter how old you are you are still seen in this manner? Are you the oldest and holding the role of having to be responsible for everyone else, the second mom so to speak?

If you were to file an identity theft claim right now, who would you name as the person or persons you are allowing to steal your identity? Notice I said allowing for someone can not steal our identity without our permission. Much like no one can hurt us or disappoint us without our permission it is completely up to us if we are giving our energy away. When it comes down to it, the only person who has the ability to feel or express for you, is you. So, if you are hurt or feeling like someone made you mad, back up your emotions a little bit and see if you can be in observation of them so you can determine where that leak in your field is. Perhaps you are tired and not feeling refreshed so you are more vulnerable or perhaps you are someone who really likes your own misery and doesn’t know who you are without it so allowing yourself to hurt as the result of others actions seems comfortable, even when it is uncomfortable. When you take responsibility for how you feel you will recognize a great relief in your own body for when there is choice, and there always is, there is empowerment and someone who is empowered is not likely to be a victim of identity theft on any level.

The other way and perhaps the one we hear the least about that we allow energy to be taken is in the energy field that surrounds our physical body and is often referred to as the aura. The aura is fascinating  and a wealth of information for there is a plethora of receptors there that translate the energy of all that is the universe and bring it back to us in the form of communication, of emotion, of mental process and of intuitive reception.

I often see people with big holes in their aura which for me is an indication that they are giving their energy away. They are allowing others to tap into the field and siphon their literal energy stores. I call these people psychic vampires (and long before vampires became cool). Sometimes these energy drains are not aware they are doing it, they are often the whiners, the needy soul that has to have others around to validate their existence. We all know someone in our lives that may fall into this category. They are the ones that always turn the conversation back to themselves and their daily soap opera drama. They are the ones that post on social networking that there is drama a foot every day and it can be something as small as burning breakfast to the I am never going to meet someone because my life is so tragic posting. They are often so caught up in their own story that they aren’t aware others even exist, except when they need to make a withdrawal to keep going. It is exhausting to maintain that level of drama so there must be donors available. Don’t be a donor! While I maintain most do not know they are doing it, they are simply caught up in their hamster wheel, it is up to each person to recognize the person in their lives, the spouse, the child, the sibling, the parent or the friend and at least agree not to feed the vampire any longer. It really is a good thing for them as they will often find ways to change that habit.

If you see yourself in this description, do not worry and do not judge, simply set the intention to replenish yourself and commit to lowering the level of drama to maybe two alarm fire initially and then back off to very little smoke over time. This will help you to feel the best you can and then go on to strengthen not only yourself but those relationships around you that truly do want to support but simply can’t provide the nutritional support equivalent to a blood bank! If you didn’t know you were doing it, there is absolutely no reason to beat yourself up for it, just shift.

There are however, those that are fairly savvy at draining others intentionally. They often have an awareness of how energy can be shared and will “tap in” to the field and make their own withdrawals, usually to fill a hole in their own world, be that energetic or  emotional.

I have found a very effective method of blocking the vampires and no it does not involve garlic. Does that really work anyway? My  way is nothing new; it has been a part of the metaphysical world for eons. I simply ask Archangel Michael to surround me with white light of protection and ask him to remove all the etheric cords, past, present and future to all beings and return mine to me. I then ask that any holes I may have in my field be repaired. I picture it similar to a spiritual spackling. Then I say thank you for I am most appreciative of his help.

This method, free, easy and can be done inside ones head is the most effective manner of protecting oneself from the  energetic identity theft that I know. I use it every day before I even get out of bed and sometimes during the day as I have found it is a bit like sunscreen, you must reapply if the feeling of vulnerability is there.

So, where can you find the holes in your field? Can you feel if there are any there? Are they divits and not full holes yet? Can you see them? If not no worries, simply set the intention of having a clear and smooth field and allow for the help. Simply by being in this world and trying to figure things out we will have some divots. There is no need to identify, just rectify.

Where do you feel you hand over your own identity? Do you keep quiet at work when you have a good idea or if you see something that isn’t in alignment with the company? Do you not speak of your preferences to your partner or spouse whether that is in the relationship or in regards to your living situation or parenting style?

It is actually pretty easy to figure out when you are open to the theft, you will always feel off. There will be a feeling of discord or conflict in you. Learning to pay attention to how you feel is the key to any kind of living improvement and I know you can do it, so get on it would you?

 As for me during this journey, I have found a new strength I felt I had but hadn't seen in action. I have returned to running, which had taken a hiatus during biking season, and I have found humor, appreciation for the amazing family and friends I have and a voice to advocate for my husband. Please, for the love of all humans, don't leave someone in the hospital on pain meds by themselves. The staff mean well, but know your personal identity enough to be able to advocate if someone needs you to. 

 Riding this roller coaster we call life. Hands in the air people! It's supposed to be fun, 
Vicki




So, I realize it isn't Halloween time, unless of course you are reading this in October and then, hey, Happy Halloween! But I digress, the little trickster I am talking about isn't the kid dressed up and pulling pranks, it's that little voice within us that can be so convincing of our shortcomings. Call it the critic, ego, or trickster, by any name it can be tamed.

 I hope you enjoy this chapter and learn to be happy with your IT.

There is an interesting aspect to our personalities that can be invigorating as much as it  can be  incapacitating.  This is what I have come to know as the inner trickster.  It isn’t evil and it isn’t particularly bad but it is sometimes VERY annoying. Think of a child when they are being impish. That is the energy of the inner trickster. It wants attention and it is very practiced at getting it.  One can look at any human and know that there is an inner trickster in there.  They all have their own jobs and focuses but only because we have trained them there.  It is often based on how we were raised or what we witnessed along our path as to how our trickster plays.


When we are born, there is an innate trusting to this universe and a feeling that all is in order. Why else would we come in with no teeth, not able to support ourselves and believing that whoever brought us into this world has our best interest at heart?   This knowing or trusting is there from the soul level and if we would remember or were taught to listen to it as we grow, there would be no room for an inner trickster to marinate and then become active in our systems. This is often not the case though, I believe it is possible, but for most of us, this wasn’t our experience and we must learn to rewire the messages received by those that did bring us in or that raised us to where we are old enough to listen to our own messages.



If one were to be raised with this knowledge, much like the animal kingdom is, our own gps would guide us to the highest experience and it would all be utopia. That may seem like the best case scenario but we actually learn well through contrast and I, for one, am grateful for the teaching it has given me. For instance, my trickster is often caught up in what will be, imagined or otherwise, and will often tell me stories that are so creative IT should be a writer! It has taken me years and will no doubt be an ongoing process of retraining the trickster to find its attention elsewhere rather than in my ego!



It has been my experience that the ego is a representative and encourager of where we are and where we may be going individually. I believe it to be a good thing and something that should pat you on the back and not hold you back. I also see it as an effective tool in alignment.  While many teachings may be about separating the ego from yourself I just don’t agree that is a good way to go as it is a part of you and if it gets separated, it creates a fear reaction and that doesn’t help any situation. I see it as the part we are to learn how to accept, appreciate and sometimes talk to like it is a five year old that needs a nap, lovingly and with a great amount of patience.  This patience is what the inner trickster requires as well to quiet its comments and to redirect some of that impish energy.



One of the questions I love so much is, is it true? Is what you are talking about, complaining about, worrying about or imagining, is it true? As we learned earlier, everyone has their own inner truth and it isn’t up to us to see it from their angle, only our own but is it true or are you creating something to keep you entertained and feeling activated in your own life? Most often I find that people are so creative and don’t give themselves credit for that creativity however, it could be put to better use in being creative for the enjoyment of life rather than the drama of it.



Do you want to quiet the inner trickster and are you willing to live without the adrenaline rush of “oh, no, what do I do now?”  I know the first reaction may be, who me?  I don’t do that but you only have to look at social networking or any of the other blogging sites to see that there is a high propensity and desire for that feeling of fulfillment if only for just a moment.  This is similar to the rush achieved when one purchases a great blouse or eats a great piece of pizza or chocolate. It’s great to admit it and even better to shift the habit of lining up with the inner trickster.



Here are a few examples of the inner tricksters work and some questions to help you identify if you are dancing with your inner trickster or if you are aware of it and able to acknowledge it as that cute little bugger that quiets down when you don’t feed it.


  • What do you feel is your most creative inner trickster energy?  Does it tell you you aren’t smart enough?  You aren’t talented enough or that you lack abilities?
  • Is there a part of you that immediately agrees with others when they give their opinion even if it is something that you don’t agree with?
  • Do you feel you have to come back with an example of your own drama when someone shares their life?  An example of this would be if someone were saying that they had car trouble and what a challenge it was to get the tow truck there and you jump in with an even bigger tale of how difficult it was for you to get your car serviced and the run around that ensued.  Bigger is not always better.
  • Do you have a hard time with the opinions of others and what you “think” they may be saying about you?  This one usually brings a big response as we often think people are talking about us when in fact they are so worried about people talking about them that it is rarely the case that they are talking about us. (I know that is a bit of a puzzle but if you read it a few times you will get the humor in it as well. We humans are so funny in our learned behaviors.)


So what can you do to calm the inner trickster and allow it to go take a nap and only be present when you are not doing yourself a favor and growth is probable?


  • You can distract the inner trickster much like you would a two year old who wanted to climb the cabinets just because he can. A way to do this is by getting busy with anything that fills you up or that keeps you busy and distracted until the feeling of wanting drama to fill that hole. You could go for a walk, you could get creative artistically, you could clean or you could call a friend (NOT to talk about the challenge you are having but to share in their day.).  It only takes a short time to redirect that energy that is looking to be filled up.
  • You can recognize that it is there and much like the child example, send it for a nap. I used to do this a lot when I first started doing readings. My inner trickster was so creative it would do a conversation before the person even got there… the whole conversation…so what was the point of them showing up? Creative eh? One of the exercises I would do was to picture my inner trickster, or ego, as being dressed as I am that day and imagine it peeling out of my body similar to those old movies where the soul would rise up out of the body after someone passed. I would then send it to the kitchen, as I was doing readings in my home then, to wait for me to finish the session. I have left her on the side of the road, in the shower or standing in that kitchen for long periods of time. There was no anger in it, simply a reassignment. Over time this was unnecessary and only on occasion does she get sent to the other room for her nap.
  • You can also learn to love and appreciate the inner trickster. This will allow it to learn acceptance and not feel it has to rear its ugly head to get attention. Appreciate the fact that you are brilliantly wired to self check and accept the fact that it will be a part of you for as long as you are physical and if you learn to love it; you won’t mind having it around.
The beauty of recognizing your inner trickster and being able to work with it is that cooperation happens and that adds to the flow of your life. Learning to love something that isn’t always pretty is a gift you give yourself for then whatever pops up in life can be taken at its value and not feared.  This is very freeing and something I KNOW you can  do.


 Loving and dancing with my Inner Trickster, 
Vicki



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Let's be honest, I have created a business helping people deal with the unknown. Whether that is because they are coming for a reading and believe I can give them the picture of the potential (I can and my track record is pretty good thus far!), or whether I am helping them to believe in self so the unknown no longer has the control they thought it did, either way, I hear this word A LOT.

One of the messages I know I am here to help deliver is a form of lighten up people, life is not as difficult as you are making it. Stop creating a soap opera to feel like you have a valid reason to feel. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you feel and that solves that, eh?

Perhaps not so easily once trained to make mountains out of molehills though.  One of these mountains is feeling like you don't know what is going to happen in your life and you need to know. You have to have direction or you have to understand what is up with that other person. What if, rather than freaking out about the mountain of unknown, you saw it is an adventure of not knowing? What if you realized you didn't know for sure where you would be today and you still made it here so you already have the skill to navigate the perceived unknown.

Let me shine a little light on what I hear really freaks people out and they use the word unknown as the descriptor. I believe what is the challenge for people is not the not knowing, it is the limbo that it feels like they are in when they don't know exactly what is going to happen. We are not so comfortable in that limbo space especially the more distracted we get with noise and technology. This limbo place is where one doesn't know what is going to happen and worries about it or creates a story around not knowing being scary. It's not. It just isn't known. So what?  Relax.

Two weekends ago my husband and I took a weekend trip to the Finger Lakes in New York. On the way there, the kayak on the top of the car broke loose and was flapping in the breeze at 70 miles an hour. I let Howard know what was happening above us and he calmly pulled over and we tied the little bugger down enough to get off the thruway and address the issue. As we pull off the thruway, the car overheats. Yeah, it was that kind of beginning to the trip. Now, years ago I probably would have been panicking about not making it to our destination or where were we going to get help on a Friday night at 6pm in the middle of nowhere and he would have been annoyed and crabby. This time, we realized, hey, no one got hurt, a car has needs too and we will attend to it. After trying to eat gas station food and letting the car cool down, we got back on the road. Only to go five miles and realize, the car was in more distress than we could limp along with and we needed AAA and fast.

A lovely tow driver named Francis came to our aid and after a particularly scary moment where he, my husband and myself almost became grill art for a driver not paying attention, we were towed to safety and I got to ride in a very big tow truck!

Limbo, we were in limbo. We obviously were not going to make the next two hours we had to go and we weren't going to sleep at the garage so on to next detail, the hotel. I called one and only one, took the one room they had available (casino town on a weekend in the summer) and we were on our way. Now, I could have been all freaked out about the circumstance and lamented that our trip was ruined because of this issue but thankfully, after helping so many people and doing my own stuff, I shifted that limbo place of freaking out about what is next and shifted it to peace of mind of the situation.

Peace of mind in the unknown is realizing you don't know what is going to happen but not being concerned about it either. Recognizing that the universe really does have your back and acting accordingly with the information you have at hand as well as the skills you have developed thus far. We can't hear if we are freaking out. Addressing the issue of housing first, a ride to the hotel (in the big tow truck again! SCORE!) and then on to food, rest and seeing what the garage said in the morning was how I stayed in the adventure of the unknown.

Where do you spend your time regarding the unknown, or otherwise known as life?  Do you distract yourself from today by worrying about tomorrow? You do know while we are eternal, there is a finite number of days you will have on the planet and to spend it worrying about tomorrow and not really living in today is a bit crazy making, right?

What if you took today to realize that part of the fun of being a human is having a choice in how you live. You have a choice in whether you limbo with the unknown or you do a fun line dance or jitterbug, whatever lights you up in the dance world. Don't forget to use jazz hands!

Sure, life can throw us some pretty amazing dance choreography, but if you are willing to see you have the starter skills in dancing this dance and open to learning some new patterns, life becomes so rich and fun. Time slows down and there is a sweet spot of appreciation that we are not in charge of how the Earth spins anyway, so sit back, trust and enjoy the dance.

The car?  Well, it was just fine after a new part was installed, which happened to be in stock at the garage that was only open for a few hours Saturday morning and after some canine love from the resident pooches, we were on our way to the most amazing lakes and waterfalls I have seen.  More amazing because of the gratitude that Howard and I have learned to appreciate the journey as much as arriving at the destination.

Jazz hands people! They aren't used enough, get them up!

Peace out,
Vicki

p.s.  If it seems challenging to shift from the limbo to the mindful place of peace, give me a ringy dingy and we will re-pattern that.


Come on in, the weathers nice! Inside self that is. I see people almost every day who are afraid to look inside themselves like there are gremlins living in there. While I will grant you, we are pretty fascinating creatures, most of us are going to be ok delving into what is in there and coming out with a ruby IF we don't create a story around it or "sit in it." Go in, look around, see what could be attended to, gather your tools and then take breaks on the outside again. See?  Not so scary. 

We all know within what is important to us and what could really use some shifting. We all have that Inner Truth. 

When one hears the words inner truth there can be a cringe that goes through the system. This is a reaction, I believe, that inner truth is harder to find than it really is. Of course, it is going to be different for every person as we are all very different souls but it still is something that is very accessible.

It is my desire that everyone would find this, whatever it is for them, and allow themselves to know that peace and the absolutely, amazing, wonderful feeling that comes from connection with self. This feeling, space, realization, whatever the adjective, is what sustains us. It keeps us striving for more and allows us to expand beyond where we are at any given moment. It is very much our personal gps system guiding us to that whole feeling that our soul knew and knows is possible for every being to achieve.

We are not meant to be stagnant. Every organism that is of this universe is constantly growing and raising its vibrational frequency. We all have a knowing that this is the exciting part of our journey. The constant desire for more. For some this will be in the context of stuff, for others it may be spiritual fulfillment, for others it may be cultivating a talent that comes naturally but they don’t really understand. It really is of no matter where that desire manifests itself, it is more that the individual realizes it is great, it is natural and it is something to delve into with excitement.

It has been my experience that we allow fear to hold us back. We allow it to keep us from that place of understanding in self and others. We may have been conditioned to react to good things with a skepticism that wasn’t in us when we came into this earthly realm. This may have come from well meaning individuals, from teachers in our lives, both of the traditional variety and the ones that we meet socially along our journey, or from our own ingrained anxiety. Wherever it comes from it is interesting to me that we, over time, become oblivious to the vibration of energy and that fear and excitement actually have the same vibration in the universe. Feel about this for a moment.

Think of a time when you were anxious, nervous or otherwise zinging with energy that felt negative. Ok, other than if you are in a dangerous situation, could that feeling you had been excitement if you had approached the zing differently?  If you had taken a moment to really feel it, would it have felt like excitement? Perhaps a new chapter in your life or an opportunity to become clear on the direction your life was taking? Have you gotten into the habit of seeing things from a scary perspective?

We will explore this a bit more in the following chapters where you will learn how to shift that reactive muscle from fear to excitement. It’s fun, I promise!

For now let’s look at how to find that Inner Truth that seems so elusive. Take a moment to look at what means a lot to you. This will help you to locate the door to that  truth.
  • Is it important that people are honest?
  • Does it bother you when you feel something or someone has been “wronged”?
  • Is there an aspect of your personality that you deny out of fear of exposing it to others? I call this the what will people think syndrome.
  • Do others possess something that you would love to have? This can be in the physical, such as jobs or homes, or it can be in the emotional such as confidence or a sense of peace about them.
  • If you were to finish this statement what would you say? “If there is one thing I know I stand for it is...”
Ok, have you found the door? Have you found something that you can feel excited about entering? It is completely ok if you have not. You will, I know you will. Keep asking yourself questions until something creates a feeling of excitement. Remember to be aware that if the feeling is anxiety or stress, to look at that as it may really be excitement dressed in another’s clothing.

When you find the door, you are then going to utilize the key to unlock the door. This key consists of the abilities you already possess. Those that you may not be aware you have or have overlooked and don’t realize how special you really are.

In my groups I have asked many times for those that are participating to do this next exercise and most often they look at me like I have five heads. I am used to that look so for the most part I find it amusing, so if you feel so inclined to say something like has she lost her marbles or she’s got to be kidding. Go for it, I can take it.

Take a few moments to write out all of the positive, exciting, joyful, I’m all that and a bag of chips qualities you possess. Yes, all of them. I’ll help you get started:
  • I am at heart a good person.
  • I love to help others.
  • I bring joy wherever I go.
  • I can organize anything.
  • Animals love me.
  • I sing, dance, paint, write, sculpt, cook, speak, etc. well.
  • I have a great sense of humor. (Even if you are the only one who thinks you are funny. ESPECIALLY if you are the only one who thinks you are funny!
Continue to write as many as you can come up with. Use your daily life to give you inspiration about what you do well but also how you interact with self and others.

Now, when you have that completed and are feeling great about yourself ask three other people to give you their list of who they see you are. Please choose those that are going to be honest as well as complimentary. This is the part where the groups usually groan because it is hard to ask others what they like about ourselves but I promise the result is often amazing. While I know how we feel about ourselves is the most important, I also know that we rarely recognize our greatness and others are often happy to do so if we give them the chance.

Once you have compiled some of this data, sit back and absorb it. Allow yourself to revel in the feeling of positive reinforcement. Too much of our lives are based on a negative motivational response system. We do things because we are afraid of the outcome if we don’t but often that garners a completely opposite effect of what we really want in our lives. Energy is energy so what we pay attention to, we get whether that is something seemingly positive or not. When we focus on negative aspects of our personalities it heightens that area so it is my intention to help you re-align and focus on what is great about you and build on it until you know that you have all it takes to connect with your Inner Truth and be willing to live it as well.

I hope you are brave enough to do the exercises above. They aren't to benefit me, but they will benefit you and that is the intention here. You connecting with your Inner Truth will ripple out into the universe and help others to as well then we can all have fun together. 

Inner truth seeking every blessed day of my life and loving it, ok mostly liking it with sprinkles of loving it in there, 
Vicki

It seems to be a very nostalgic time right now. People are doing a lot of self review. I LOVE it. I believe that one of the best ways to have an amazing life is to be willing to look at, but not sit in, our stuff. I see it as a personal treasure hunt, sort of like the geocaching people are doing. You may find a gem one time or a piece of costume jewelry, but there is always something of value if you are willing to look. The journey to the location is often the valuable part!

When we use the rear view mirror to look behind us as our past, it can be fantastic. Keeping in mind the rear view mirror is smaller than the windshield for a reason. It isn't necessary to spend tons of time looking back there, but checking keeps us feeling safe and aware of our surroundings. I'll be the first to say, let's move forward from here and let the past be where it is and yet I know how challenging that can be.

I see so many people caught up in what happened, what they got, what they didn't get in relationships or what others got that they wanted. Perhaps too focused on what someone else did or didn't do. We are a complete compilation of our past experiences but we aren't them so to hang onto them waiting for them to be reconciled or corrected is a bit like chasing your own tail, you may catch it but it's going to hurt when you bite it!

I feel like there is a center ground in all of this. I truly believe we can learn to honor the past without allowing it be be an excuse for today. Now, I am not a therapist and I am very clear to say this to people, and I'm not suggesting we just "get over" whatever has happened. I am suggesting we look at our past and be freaking proud of ourselves for where we are today. Let's be honest, if you are hanging onto what someone else did or didn't do, they aren't the ones that are suffering, you are, so then does that make any sense to keep doing it? Sort of like sticking your finger in an outlet over and over again expecting not to get shocked when the electricity hasn't been shut off.

You have the ability to take the charge out of whatever the experience was and to stop shocking your electrical system over and over by remembering the injustice of it all. Perhaps this is through self care, Belief Re-patterning or similar techniques or therapy itself. Each person will have a different way of honoring the journey. For me it is combination of the re-patterning, quiet time and exercise. You may have to find your own combination. Be willing to do that for yourself.

So ask yourself:
  • Am I holding onto something that is no longer serving me? 
  • Am I doing it to have an excuse not to move forward? 
  • Can I be compassionate with self enough to release the need to hold this? 
  • Am I ready to give myself permission to live without a rear view mirror as my guide? 
Be kind when asking the questions and be honest. It isn't worth the time to ask if you are going to lie to yourself. The potential for great joy of life is there in any persons life if they are brave enough to let go of the excuses. If they are brave enough to use the past as a way to reveal their greatness.

Want to join me in the, "I am grateful for the experiences life has brought me and I rock this lifetime with intention of using them to propel me forward" movement?  We may need a shorter slogan but this will work for now. 

Utilizing my past as a diving board, 
Vicki

Thank you for joining me in this walk through my book. I have to admit, it was fun to re-read it again. It was started because people were asking for a Vicki to go version. While I have a few more ideas up my sleeve, I thought I would roll this one out now while the others are coming together. 

The best place to start with any journey is the now right? So, this is why the first chapter of the book is called Your Current IT. 

Identifying what one is currently working on can take a lot of stress out of life. We often push against the energy of change so ignoring what is right in front of us is easy. As one of my brilliant clients said once “but Vicki, it takes a lot of courage to imagine your life different.” Yes, it does, but that ability to see different scenarios is the beauty of being human, being eternal, and being a soul.  Do you have the courage to see your life different? Do you have the courage to believe that your IT, when brought to light, can actually enhance your life? I believe you do. I believe it because I know everyone has the ability to grow beyond where their current limitations are set and I know that with a little encouragement, great heights can be attained.
Being willing to look at whatever is feeling out of sorts with us is one of our greatest abilities. To factor, to sort, to delve into the deepest depths and come up with the oyster is what makes being a human so great. We perhaps just need to learn how to do it without judging it so that it doesn’t hurt so stinking much and so we can find the joy that life is meant to be. So, are you ready to do that? What if I said I would be here to encourage all along this journey, would that make it easier? I am, so let’s get started.

For each question, be as honest as possible:
  • What in your life do you find annoying?
  • What would you like to change if you had a magic wand?
  • How is ignoring the truth helping you right now? If it wasn’t filling some kind of need, you wouldn’t keep doing it.
  • Is there ingrained teaching leading the continuation of the behavior or habit?
When I have a current IT I am working on, I can procrastinate with the skill worthy of a PhD in procrastination! What my clients have taught me to do, while in the process of reading for them, is address whatever it is I don’t want to do at the time and bring light to it. Often it isn’t as scary as it seems. An analogy of this is when a child is scared of a monster in their room, often if you turn on a light it is a sweatshirt they didn’t put away. Our internal fears are often the same, when there is a light shown on it though, they are not as scary.

When I do this it no longer has control of me or my day. I may determine the time I spend ignoring it could be used to complete the task such as doing the dishes or writing this chapter!

I may also use my choice to address it later when I am more in enjoyment of what needs doing. When we do something when it doesn’t feel right, we introduce resistance to the very thing we were trying to release. So, if we leave it and come back to it when there is less friction, whatever the task is or the fear, it will dissipate so much easier. This requires a bit of flexibility but also an internal commitment that may have to be developed over time. This commitment is one to self. Basically, giving yourself permission to learn as you go so there isn’t so much pressure on whatever the task at hand is. It is similar to learning to walk, there are going to be times when you fall on the diaper but be glad it is there and get up again. No name calling, no judgment, just get up and try again. A lot of the times a baby will laugh when they fall. Wouldn’t it be great if we could remember that humor when we fall on our proverbial diapers?

So, what is your current IT? What is staring you right in the awareness sector and you are pretending politely to not make eye contact with? I invite you to travel through the following chapters and try the one that jumps out at you when you read the title. Often, it is right in front of us and we aren’t even aware we already know what direction to head. If, like in the example above, your it is how others annoy you, well perhaps you can look at each of the annoyances as a teacher to see what it is really about YOU that you aren’t so fond of. Often when we point the finger at others it is really our own issues that we are trying to avoid. Try this the next time it comes up. It can be really exciting if you drop the judgment.

Come on, it will be fun, ok, maybe not the WHOLE thing but most of it will be enlightening, freeing and so empowering to meet you and really like who you are. I promise you are great, I know it already and we’ve just met.

Give yourself the gift of looking within this week and being pleased at what you see. Go ahead, have fun with it and be nice to you. 

Currently accentuating my It, 
Vicki

...which I am thankful for, first of all. Second of all, after hitting the snooze button three times, I realized I had this incredible feeling of "let's get this done!"  I am not entirely sure who the company is with me that makes up the let's but I am grateful for the feeling and I hope they are ready to play. I've felt myself wanting to both lay around and enjoy the summer season along with the desire to get as much experience in as possible with the thawed out weather.

I'm sure I am not the only one feeling this as the energy of late has a very hurry up and wait feeling to it. My mother used to say this all the time about my father whenever we went anywhere because it seemed like he knew EVERYONE! A simple trip to the store always included a lot of conversations while we waited for him to be done to drive us back home. I had a good chuckle about this the other day as I tried to explain the feeling of the energy lately. It was the perfect analogy, in our house anyway.

It took me until about ten to realize that wait....I don't have to wait. I can have what I want when I want it. I am willing to show up and do my part so bring it universe! There was an incredible ripple that went through my system which I take as confirmation that I am on to something.

How done are you about waiting for things to happen? I know there is divine timing and all that, but the feeling of having to earn it, work for it, deserve it because I did something nice for someone else is a bit archaic isn't it? How about realizing that we wouldn't have agreed to be souls in this amazing universe if we weren't able to hand the good stuff? (A little universal humor here; as I write this the song Anticipation is on the radio. I love synchronicity!)

Are you willing to show up and be accountable for your part? Are you willing to call the person to connect you for the next step of your life, do the research necessary, go to the gym, turn the excuse-o-meter off in your head? Are you willing to leave the story behind of how tough it has been and start looking at how amazing it could be?

I'm not a Pollyanna who is clueless that life has ebbs and flows but I am a big believer in we don't have to suffer through those ebbs. We can see that as the wait part where we assess the message and decide what we want to feel next.

What if you believed it wasn't about deserving something or earning it or suffering in order to prove you can have it, the ole, eat your vegetables so you can have dessert syndrome. What if you said, ya know what, I am willing to celebrate this life process and rock it while I start with dessert!

Some may want to offer their well meaning fears and be careful's and that is fine. If they want to live like that, let them. It is their choice. You get to decide for you and if you don't believe you can decide for self, perhaps their beliefs are stronger than yours right now and you need to ease into this concept. That is fantastic. Take your time, come see me and I'll help, then enjoy the knowing that it is the perfect example of you showing up. Go you!

I did so love the irony of me hitting the snooze three times (wait) and then the feeling the let's do this energy (hurry up).  Being conscious of where and how I am is so much fun. The messages of the energy are here to help, not define how we live.  We get to decide if hurry up and wait is where we want to leave the statement or if we mix the order up for what works for us.  Be creative people. 

We are in an amazing manifesting space right now. Take advantage of it, see what you are waiting to enjoy and then hurry up and enjoy it!

Thinking the moon is NOT the limit,
Vicki

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