This last week has been very light filled for me. I started it with Lasik surgery, THAT is very bright, did fifteen sessions and finished it with a retreat of amazing women who were all very bright lights in their own beings. I had a thought while we were in meditation during the retreat that we all have this light within us and often turn it down to not blind others and in doing so get a little light constipated. Yes, this is the brilliance you can have too if you meditate. It's been said that everything in life comes back to poo, I'm starting to believe that it's true, even meditation!

We all have a light body, it is the essence that is our very soul. It is always present, yet often people are hesitant to show it. Perhaps it is because they are just unaware they have a light body to utilize. I feel like one of my roles here on this Earth is to bring that awareness to everyone, helping them realize that they do indeed have a beautiful light within and once it shines out, begins to demonstrate what the real purpose of being here is, love.

The vibration of love is different for everyone and I do believe is without explanation. It is something that just is. We can try to describe it with all of the cards, songs, poems, graffiti written on city walls, and still never really come up with words to eloquently describe it. How do you describe something that is so light filled and resonates at such a level, that it can take your breath away?

This vibration comes in many different frequencies. The light that is love can be the love for self, a partner, a pet, humanity as a whole, or an interest that comes from your very soul. It is as different as each of us are. Each refraction of the light that we have inside of us is a mirror of the love and the potential that we have to shine outside of us. How many lights do you have? Do you know? Do you allow yourself to feel that light and love for whatever it is you are witnessing?

Sometimes this isn't easy. I know I have held myself back for many decades because the depth of the feeling that is there can be overwhelming at times. I have learned to shift that overwhelming to a gratitude. Yes, it may still catch me off guard, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm just discovering how many lights I possess. And let me tell you, it is fun!

Today when I stopped by to see my grandchildren, Gavin asked me to wait while he ran inside because he had something to show me. Now he didn't know I was writing this blog, nor would he have cared if he did know. Gavin is his own man. He lives to impress no one. After all he is five! What does he come out with? What was so important that he showed me, was a light sword. The sword was impressive on it's own. But then he touched the button and it became lit up with this wonderful green color. As the sword lit up, so did Gavin. He was so proud of it and as an extension he was allowing his light to beam everywhere. It was truly wonderful to see. Perhaps because I was willing to wait to see the light he had inside the home, I was gifted to see the light he had within. He also gave me a fist bump.

Do you have a magic sword? Do you need to find yourself a magic sword? What if this week you took the time to see how many different lights you have in your life? What if you gave yourself the gift to see your light and then you allowed that light to shine from within, blasted from your heart center out around you?  Imagine how wonderful that would feel.

Gavin didn't need to be taught how to shine his light today. He didn't need me to point it out. He knew on some level that if he connected with what his heart found joy in, he could shine his light brilliantly. I'm simply suggesting if a five-year-old is brave enough, aren't you?

I know I'm going to follow his example, take inventory and appreciate every light beam that I am privileged to have shown to me this weekend. Another benefit to this is as soon as you start to see the brightness around you, more brightness shows up. Is that cool?

I wish you a week of discovery, light, love and all the lights swords you can muster up.

Living brilliantly, 


Today's blog is short and sweet!  As many of you may know, I had LASIK surgery recently and I am being mindful not to over use my eyes so quickly after the procedure.  

Today's daily affirmation from my Hay House calendar "reminded" me how important it is to respect and protect our bodies.  I am taking this time to allow my body to heal.  What does your body need?  What is it telling you?  Are you listening?  If not, why not?  I enjoy helping others explore just such questions!

Here is to "seeing" you soon!
Vicki
















One of the things I find fascinating about people is their tendency to believe that their power or happiness comes from another. I'll admit this took me a long time to learn but I am so grateful to whatever cosmic two by four that allowed it to sink into my gray matter.

I hear almost daily about how someone else has ruined my client's life. How someone else has betrayed them either through infidelity, business dealings, the other persons own emotional baggage, or that they've changed seemingly without notice.  I am sure there are a bunch more reasons that someone would feel betrayed but I wonder if it truly is betrayal.

Perhaps, it isn't betrayal but rather the other person needing to do what is best for them or what they feel, in that moment, is best for them. Granted not everyone acts in an upfront manner, so occasionally this could look like it was devious behavior.  For example, when a relationship is not in alignment with one member and rather than having a conversation with the other member they start seeing someone else. While this looks like a classic case of betrayal, I believe it is the first person's inability to communicate what they really want that has them acting out in the first place.

I had a recent experience where I had to grapple with this one myself. A former friend stop communication very abruptly and while I am not one to chase another relationship, I still had to wonder had I done anything? What was my part in the lack of communication? Should I reach out and ask is there anything that can be done? Or do I leave it alone and be thankful for the great conversations we've had and learn from this experience as once again, I am not in charge of everyone else.

Go ahead, guess which one I did?



You're correct if you said leave it alone and be thankful. I won't deny the fact that I felt hurt. I know I'm responsible for those emotions if I feel hurt. No one else can hurt my feelings. That one is on me. Besides, it wasn't the person that I was hurt about it was the abrupt end to communication. I took the opportunity to look at my relationships and what I bring to them. I know above all I am honest in my interactions with people. If someone is not getting something from a relationship with me, I feel it is their responsibility to speak up. After all, I don't read minds.

I could call it betrayal and the other person was being disloyal to me, but that would keep me trapped in the poor me place and I only allow that in small increments of five minutes tops! In the above case, I know that it has to do with the others that are in my friend's life. I honor that, respect it, and I'm grateful for everything I learned as it was not a long relationship, but it was fun while it lasted.

Another meaning of the word betrayal is to reveal or exhibit. Perhaps the persons in our lives we feel are being disloyal are really showing us what they are capable of when in a relationship? What if, this person who was in my life was really showing me what opportunistic looks like and to be aware of that in the future. What a great teacher wouldn't you agree? Great teachers don't always know they are teachers so please be aware you are ALWAYS a student.

Perhaps if you experience this in your life, you will take the time to ask yourself "what is there for me to learn?" If you are the one that is revealing to others, be willing to look at that as well and learn to communicate what you would like rather than waiting until your behavior reveals itself.

I wish you a life of easy lessons but if they aren't, please pay attention so you can shorten the time frame!

Blessings,
Vicki




I have seen people in some of the most vulnerable places in their lives. They are hurting and seeking the miracle cure for the pain. This is sometimes physical, but most often it is emotional. To me, they are one and the same. When the emotional self is hurting, the body tends to follow suit very quickly. There is an energy pattern that shows up as a small vibration and if the situation is not addressed and released, it becomes a physical manifestation. Louise Hay wrote the pioneer book on this in her, You Can Heal Your Life. I love this book and have given dozens of copies away when someone is experiencing a diagnosis and interested in shifting the energy.

My first inclination used to be to solve the situation for them. I have come to realize that is not possible, nor is it helpful to them. My role is to point out the discord and hopefully, help bring things into alignment so healing can happen on all levels be it emotional, physical, spiritual or mental. We all have the ability to solve our own pain. First, we have to be willing to see we are not the pain. Yes, we may be experiencing a message from our brains that there is pain, but we are not the pain. If we can become the observer of that pain, we can then take the next step in relieving it. Of course, if something is bleeding, get medical help!

People close to me used to say I was not feeling or didn't care when someone was in pain when the opposite is true. I was feeling it at levels often deeper than the person themselves were, I just was not the one who could make the decision to do anything about it. We can't change someone else and we can't heal someone else. We can be the bringer of information and we can be the hugger, but the healing is up to the person themselves. This takes an incredible amount of strength to stand back and allow the other to find their direction and their own clarity. Do you have that strength? Are you developing it? I recommend a lot of deep breaths and reminders that it is their path to help you learn to observe.

I decided a few years back that I wasn't going to be afraid of pain any longer. I was going to be inquisitive and I was going to delve into what was hurting so I could release it and be lighter, in energy and body. Most often it is a story anyway, and not the truth at the time, but rather something we have learned to carry around. Even asking what is the pain here to teach me, can relieve it a bit.

How often have you looked at your own stuff through a filter or fingers over your eyes? I know I have and still do on occasion. This isn't about being perfect and without pain. This is about recognizing I can make a choice about the level of pain I am experiencing. Knowledge is power and the more I know about me, with all my nooks and crannies, the better life I will create.

Do you want a better life? Would you like to be able to face whatever comes up in your internal closet and decide whether to keep it, donate or chuck it in the garbage? I'll be posting classes to help you on this journey and to build that tool kit soon. In the meantime, start observing the space that separates you from the pain. Become conscious that there is even a space to be had. No, it isn't easy, but it is so worth the effort.

Learning this life thing a bit at at time,
Vicki
This last weekend I felt pushed to challenge myself physically and boy did I.  Not all intentionally either. I had a full weekend planned. On Saturday I had a time set to run the course for the 5k for Gould Farm, a path I refer to as Mt Everest. If you are looking for a challenging course, this is your best bet in Berkshire County. If you don't want to walk/run it, I will gladly accept support for the organization. I did it last year as my first 5k, so you can too!

Saturday evening I met with friends to see Josh Groban in concert. Trust me, go if you can. It was so good and filled the well of energy. Sunday I said to Donna, hey, I'm going to go for a hike with Tank, do you want to go. Silly woman that she is, she said yes. Donna is crazily up for most anything I suggest including being the administrative awesomeness behind my business.

So, we take a trail she has done, albeit, years ago and one I had never done. We did fantastic for the first mile that was steep but certainly manageable. Then we decided to head back to the car as really, we had done a tough course the day before. Yeah, that's where the fun comes in. We lost the trail markers. We did end up in someone's back yard but this gal didn't want to trespass. Again, Donna was up for backtracking. I don't know, but I am thinking someone should check her mental status about agreeing with me so often. This should confirm it...we decided to just cut across the forest to meet up with the original trail. Now, we are intelligent women, you would think one of us would say, nah, let's go back the way we came and see where we messed up. But, we didn't. Tank didn't say anything either.

Nope, we went the hard way. Sound familiar in your own life? Do you take the long way around? Do you create the mountain out of the proverbial mole hill? We did. We ended up climbing down, then up, then straight up in the air. The dog literally jumped vertically on some of the places. It was impressive and terrifying. Not only to us, but to the gentleman who was smart enough to stay on the trail when he saw two crazy ladies coming up the side of the mountain with a barking dog. His face was priceless. We did make it to the trail and calmly walked out of the trial head. We figured that after that process, Gould was nothing. ha! It's all about perspective.


The next day I had off and decided a bike ride would be great. The weather was perfect and I hadn't been all week. I went to the trail because texting drivers scare me. I won't lie, the first few miles HURT. Holy hip flexors. Climbing had used muscles I've used in the gym but not in life and boy were they letting me know I was using them. As usual, after some use it got easier. So easy that at mile nine I thought, this is easy I can keep going, even knowing I had to peddle the whole way back. I was going to do the whole trail. Why not? I climbed a mountain yesterday. A small one, but I did it. Imagine my surprise that when I got to mile eleven and turned around (bless the people who volunteer on a holiday to have a visitor center and their bathrooms open!) to realize mile nine was so easy because it was DOWN HILL! So if you are going back, you have to go UP HILL! What is wrong with my head is what I was asking myself at the time. "Why do you have to push the envelope? Why take the hard way Vicki? I'll be damned if I am pushing this bike up a hill. I am riding it. Then some part of my head said, stop fighting Vic, just enjoy the ride. No testing, no timing, no competition, just ride and enjoy it."   So I did.
It got easier. I joked with the people on the trail about where did these hills come from? Could I get a lift up to the top? The more I smiled at others, the easier it got. Drop the resistance and time passes pretty quickly. Pretty soon I was at mile 21.9. Somewhere is that extra tenth of a mile and it's ok, I'll find it another day. I did six miles more than I ever had and I learned to let go somewhere along mile thirteen. I found ease in the process and an enjoyment of accomplishment. (And numb buns, but that is a post for another day.)
I don't tell you this to say look at me and what I did. I am telling you because today I met with someone that showed me that mountains and challenges come in different packages. I had met him before and had certainly been aware of his process but didn't realize the level of courage his mountain was taking him through. He is experiencing the diagnosis of cancer and is the epitome of strength. I felt compelled to help in some way and he was silly enough to be willing to have an energy session with me. During this session I came to realize that he was giving me the gift of a lifetime. He was showing me what we really are here for. We are here to love our crazy families. We are here to squeeze as much joy out of this life as we can and we are here to show those mountains and miles, when we take them bit by bit, it is all manageable and even surmountable.

He would say he is just doing what he has to do, I am sure. This is his mountain and he is smart enough to stay on a trail that is marked. We all have mountains and challenges. Each person has their perception of what is difficult. We can't ever really know what someone is climbing unless we are willing to ask and offer assistance. In offering, we are given a gift of awareness that perhaps our mountains aren't all that high but rather we are making them seem that way. I realize it is all relative, after all, I chose my mountains this weekend, but they seem much smaller now. I'm proud of my climb and humbled by the guy who trusted me to run some energy through his system to perhaps give him a power pack over the next hump.

Look at what you consider a challenge in your life and see if you aren't able to lessen the perception of the climb. Take it one step at a time. Look for markers and if there aren't any, forge a path. Just don't scare the guy on the trail!

See you on the trail!
Vicki

I was chatting with someone earlier in the week who is a wonderful helper to a lot of people, as are a lot of you. We were discussing how helping everyone else has left little room for herself in your own life. We weren't lamenting about it, identifying and bringing words to it, but not lamenting. I asked her if she was able to be the assistance in someones life but not the reliance. She gave me a look I am getting really used to. It is a cross between I know there is something there and I think Vicki is speaking Swahili.

After a pause I used an analogy, I LOVE analogies. I drew the comparison of her service to the social assistance system our state has. If someone is in a tough spot and could use help, it is a wonderful thing. It can help them get back on their feet, boost self-esteem and in many cases, provide the fuel to keep going. It is not intended to be something to live on and rely on as support for all of their days. Although some may choose this, they are short changing themselves by not believing they are capable of self support. I went on to say, if you sprain your ankle, you don't necessarily need a wheelchair when a set of crutches will do. Allow the crutches to assist, do not rely on a wheelchair to carry you.

My point in all of this was to help her see that if she was the system people rely on to survive, no one will thrive. She will be exhausted and the other person or persons won't feel their own greatness. Transfer of power serves no one.

Ask yourself if you are the provider of the emotional wheelchair or the rider? Where in your life are you allowing others to ride on the benefit of your energy and momentum. It isn't an easy thing to look at but boy, when you do, there is a lot of relief that can be had just by acknowledging it. Especially if you are the one that is taking the ride. The small steps to ambulating, when one is perfectly capable, are empowering and well worth the effort.

Examples of being the emotional wheelchair:
  • Everybody's needs come first, even if they are capable of taking care of self. (Be honest with this one. Anyone over the age of ten can make a sandwich for themselves, the abilities just get stronger from there.)
  • You financially support someone who is capable of doing the same for themselves. I am not talking family choice here, I am talking about the person who is capable and available to bring in the cash and chooses, for whatever reason, not to. 
  • Excusing behavior that is less than supportive. Making excuses and allowing. 
  • Not believing you are worth the care everyone in your life is receiving from you. (come see me, I will help you with this one. :))
Examples of being the rider:
  • Allowing someone else to carry you. Seems pretty easy as the first one. Leaning is one thing, once in a while, but carrying is not good for any relationship. 
  • Believing someone else "is the reason you live." No person can be this for another. It is just not possible. Short of prior to cutting the umbilical cord, you are the reason you live, then you can connect to others. Hold your own energy and be proud of self sufficiency. 
  • Using excuses like, I can't find a job, I don't have skills, I live where there is no opportunity. I recently read about a man who took in a child who had no family even though he could barely support himself. He tried to make more money collecting recycled material but that was too costly so he taught himself to make bricks to sell to contractors. He now supports FOUR children who aren't even his so they can go to school. Anything is possible. 
  • Like above, not believing you are worth receiving. We all are but there is accountability and desire that must be plugged into in order to receive. 

Changing either of these positions can be challenging but how great would it be to feel that I can do it feeling if you are the rider. Equally great is seeing someone say, I DID IT! when you learned to say no and trust that they could really do it. It is a gift you can give them because eventually all wheelchair tires go flat and need to be replaced. If the rider hasn't learned to walk, there may be an abrupt end to the ride, i.e. divorce, croaking, throwing hands up. Prevent whiplash, be self carrying and then play well with others. Heck, maybe after everyone gets up on their own feet, dancing may happen! 

The above examples are just a few I have either lived through or seen in my business. There are as many as there are people. Give yourself the gift of assessing where you are and if you want to, how you would change it. 

See you on the dance floor, 
Vicki

This is one of those questions that can drive one kookabonkers. Is time an illusion? Some would say so. That we only measure time because man created it as a way of measuring. Others would say that it exists because Mother Nature shows us that in cycles. Still others say it doesn't and we are living simultaneous lives. The last one would explain why we are always so tired. One lifetime at a time is enough, don't you think?

I experienced  my own question of time this weekend. We had an engagement party for our daughter and her fiancé. Our adult daughter! I am one of those parents that celebrated their children getting older.  I've never really felt sad at the idea they were aging. Isn't that natural? The process? The expected? While I still feel this, it was surreal to be part of the festivities and celebration of her future marriage. One of the reasons being I feel like life has just begun for me so to be riding parallel to her experience of new, it was a bit confusing and amazing!

Sure, I remember the funny child she was, but she's that funny adult.  I remember that she never wanted to wake up for daycare or school but she currently works the three to eleven shift, so has anything changed there? Nope. See why it's confusing? The element of time tells me that almost twenty two years have passed, but have they really? 

It feels like a blink of an eye yet I don't want to go back. I want to keep looking forward and celebrate all that life has to offer. I hold such wonder for what is ahead that I am like a kid waiting for holidays to start. This is why it feels like life is just starting. This feeling is new and I want to stretch it as far as I can! 

We had a few other new things happen on the same day. Our grandson, who was one day shy of five, decided he could do his first overnight ever! In my exhaustion from the party, and his adorable reasoning, I couldn't say no. He did well. Midnight sleep time, up at seven. Nana thought time didn't exist that night! But, seriously, how do you say no to these faces? 


Our dog also did his first overnight at doggie daycare. I suspect he slept more than the almost five year old.

Countless kids will begin school this week. Instead of lamenting where did the time go, show them how exciting it is to live life.  Look through that windshield and leave the rear view one for backing up your vehicle. 

While it still boggles my mind that I have three grown children, four grandchildren and a mortgage, I intend to embrace my timeless self and see how much more alive I can feel each year.  


We all have life force energy. The energy that powers the universe. Life force energy IS timeless. When we croak, we return to this complete life force energy and leave the body behind. We have access to this energy at all times. Sort of the fountain of youth if you will. Those that communicate their crossing process to me indicate how wonderful it feels to connect with that feeling again. I am suggesting we do that while in body by appreciating all that life has to offer, including having your youngest head down the matrimonial path! 

Kaela and Kyle, I and spirit wish you the very best in all that life has to offer. You are the example of love and trust. Be yourselves and embrace that uniqueness.


I'll still be blubbering each time my kids have a milestone but the tears will be happy ones for they are doing what their life force tells them to; live life and love the process. Who am I to hold anyone in a place of what was?

Practice seeing what is in front of you this week and be amazed at how good it feels!

Heading back to the fountain,
Vicki

P.S. K and K....will you still be doing laundry at my house after the nuptials? Just wondering.  😉




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